Are you pregnant and thinking about giving up your child for adoption? Choosing to place your baby for adoption in Colorado is a brave choice and can be an empowering decision. You are probably facing a situation in which parenting your child — for whatever reason — isn’t an option. This does not in any way mean you are giving up. Quite the opposite! It means you are taking control of your situation and providing an opportunity for your child.
You likely have questions and concerns regarding the adoption process: how adoption will work, how adoption will make you feel, and if you’re making the right decision. Adoption Choices of Colorado is here to help. We will provide information, resources, counseling, and full support through the adoption process. We also want you to understand that you are not giving up.
Am I Giving Up My Baby for Adoption?
We want you to understand that you are not giving up when you place your baby for adoption. The terminology “giving up a baby” or “putting up a baby” dates back to the 1800’s. Adoption has changed dramatically since then! Adoption is a choice women make to place their baby with a forever family. A loving adoptive family. It’s a difficult but brave and loving choice.
We use the language “give up” and “put up” only because it’s still the most commonly searched terms to help women considering adoption find adoption information and resources. Just because our website or blog uses these terms does not mean our adoption professionals believe in them nor use them lightly. We advocate Positive Adoption Language and encourage:
- Place my baby for adoption
- Choose adoption for my baby
- Make an adoption plan
It’s essential that we are careful what words we choose, because they have specific meanings. Placing a baby for adoption takes a tremendous amount of strength and courage. It is an example of a heartfelt decision and loving sacrifice made by the birth mother, who willingly chooses to place her child with an adoptive family who can give the child their best chance at life. Birth parents made the conscious decision to place their child for adoption because it was best for the child and the adoptive family absolutely wanted the child. This is anything but giving up.
Reasons to Place Your Baby for Adoption
An unplanned or unwanted pregnancy tends to put life into a different perspective. One that all too often leaves you feeling confused or overwhelmed. Pressure to terminate your pregnancy and other negative remarks pour in from those who know and love you. What do you do?
Parenthood is not meant for everyone, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It takes a very special kind of person to take on all the responsibility of raising a child and overseeing their well-being. If you don’t feel like becoming a parent is your future, or you aren’t ready to be a parent just yet, that’s ok. There are many other hopeful individuals and couples who are aching to give your child all the love and care they have to offer.
Adoption is an extremely personal decision. Adoption Choices of Colorado is happy to provide any and all information and educational resources we can; but, at the end of the day, we understand that you may need some time to think everything over. We will never force you into something you don’t want to do. That’s not how we do things. However, we can promise to walk with you each step of the way if you decide that placing your baby for adoption is the right choice for you.
Here are some top reasons why women, like you, choose to place their child for adoption. One of these might relate with your situation, or you might have your own reason.
- I’m not ready to be a parent
- I don’t want to have an abortion
- I can’t afford to raise a baby or child
- I don’t want another child
- I already have a family
- I can’t provide what a baby needs
- I’m too young to have a baby
- I’m too old to have a baby
- I want to focus on my education or career
- I was sexually assaulted or abused
- Unknown or uninvolved birth father
- I don’t want a forever connection with the baby’s father
- I’m not ready
And that’s okay! You will not be judged with Adoption Choices of Colorado. We understand and we are compassionate about your reasons for considering putting your child up for adoption.
How do I Know Placing My Baby for Adoption is the Right Choice
You may be wondering: how do I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that placing my baby for adoption is the right choice? Not just in your head, but in your heart, too. There is no easy way for this, just as there’s no right or wrong answer, because everyone will have a different response. Adoption is a personal choice. No two adoption stories are alike. So, ultimately, it’s up to you to decide what is best for your life and that of your baby’s.
Other birth mothers have known they were making the right choice because they wanted to:
- Take control of her situation and her baby’s future
- Continue to pursue her own goals and build a better life for herself before parenthood
- Give her baby the opportunity to have his or her best chance at life through choosing a family that could provide everything she couldn’t
- Ensure that her baby grew up happy, safe and healthy in a loving home
- Put the best interests of her baby’s above her own
If any of these responses resonate with you, then there’s your answer. That’s how you know for sure that adoption is the right choice. Not only can adoption be right for you, but adoption can be a rewarding experience. Choosing adoption means choosing a better life for everyone involved — you, your baby, and the adoptive family you choose.
Are there Requirements for Placing a Baby for Adoption?
No. There are no specific requirements to place your child for adoption in Colorado. Anyone can place a baby for adoption, as long as they feel adoption is the right choice for both themselves and their child. If you are struggling with this, please see refer to our information under “how do I know placing my baby for adoption is the right choice.”
A woman can choose adoption at any age and at any time during her pregnancy. She can also choose adoption after the baby is born. Our adoption agency reacts quickly to your situation and will help put an adoption plan in place where you, as the birth mother, is still in total control. Choose the type of adoption, choose the adoptive family, choose post-placement communications, and receive the financial and emotional support you need. Even last minute, adoption is an option.
Every birth mother and birth parent will be different when it comes to whether or not to choose adoption. No two adoption journeys are alike. If you have any questions or concerns regarding your specific life circumstances, or feel ready to begin your adoption journey as birth parents, please don’t hesitate to contact us.
Benefits of Placing Baby for Adoption
An unplanned pregnancy can make life complicated and bring everything to a grinding halt. It can feel overwhelming and confusing for women who are not ready to build a family. Adoption offers a wonderful and loving solution to this.
Through choosing adoption, a birth mother can continue building her career, finish her education or complete more life goals before parenthood. It also allows her more time to become financially stable for when she is ready to grow her family. Another benefit to adoption is that birth mothers can remain an integral part of their child’s life through an open adoption agreement with the adoptive parents.
More benefits to choosing adoption with a Colorado Adoption Agency:
- As a licensed adoption agency, we can provide financial support and assistance.
- You can still plan your baby’s future by selecting the adoptive family that will adopt your baby and creating a post-placement communication plan.
- You can feel empowered for choosing life and growth — for your child, your future self, and an adoptive family.
Choosing Adoption when Faced with Difficult Life Circumstances
Homelessness. Incarnation. Drug addiction or recovery. Having no U.S. Citizenship. Domestic Violence or Sexual Abuse. Deployment… Life has countless curve balls it throws at us, making it impossible to build a family the way we want. If you are pregnant and in a difficult circumstance, choosing adoption for your child can bring peace and comfort in these trying times.
Adoption Choices of Colorado understands the stress and anxiety an unplanned pregnancy can cause, and we want to help. Please know that adoption is always an option for you, regardless of what you’re facing in life. Our trained and compassionate adoption professionals are ready and willing to offer assistance in any way we can.
If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy and wondering if adoption is still an option for you because of challenges, the answer is yes and we are the adoption center with the experience to help.
Over the past twenty years, we have helped many individuals –women like you– and couples make adoption plans and helped build families through the miracle of adoption. As a leader in the adoption community, we are genuinely committed to providing a sensitive, comprehensive, and supportive experience for all parties involved in the adoption journey. We are dedicated to ensuring that your adoption is processed in a professional, competent and caring manner and would be delighted to answer your questions.
Is There an Age Limit for Placing a Baby for Adoption?
Is there such thing as being “too old” or “too young” to place a baby for adoption? No. Whether you are in your teenage years, twenties, thirties, or older, there is no cut-off age. Adoption Choices of Colorado serves all birth mothers and birth parents who want to choose adoption for their child.
To us, age is just a number. What is most important is finding a loving home for your child and helping you through the adoption journey. It doesn’t matter if you are placing with us for the first time or seventh time, or you already have children or not, you are always welcome at our agency.